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Why I quit clipping coupons--and spend even less on groceries!

Yes, you read that headline right. I don’t coupon, and typically I pay $30-50 a week for groceries for a family of six—three meals a day (including lunches for my kids). I know that a lot of bloggers will tell you how wonderful couponing is, and it’s true that you can save a lot of money. I've done couponing in the past—I tried the Grocery Game for 12 weeks and did save money . . . when it worked. But here are the reasons why couponing just didn’t work for us.


Local grocery store sales schedules don’t cooperate

First of all, when I tried the Grocery Game years ago, they included some of the larger (more expensive) grocery stores. Now they only list deals for chains like Walgreens, RiteAid, and Walmart. When they did list actual grocery stores, the deal list came out on Sundays, and the deals ended on Tuesday. To get deals, that means I absolutely hdd to go shopping on Monday or Tuesday. If I’m busy or sick, too bad. Plus . . .

By the time I could shop, the shelves were picked clean

That wouldn’t be quite as bad except for the fact that, when I finally did get to go out armed with the best coupon/deal/sale combinations, there was nothing left. No, I don’t mean “Oh, my favorite flavor of this is gone, so I’ll have to settle for my second favorite” gone.

I mean the shelves with the sale items were completely empty. The end-of-aisle displays and island displays were gone. There was no more stock in the back. And the next shipment wouldn’t be in for days—till after the sale ended. “Gone” gone. No rainchecks.

Granted, this only happened with the absolute best sales, but it usually happened by Friday night (sometimes as early as 9 PM on day one of the sale, though!). The premise behind the Grocery Game is that sales run in 12 week cycles. If they’re so predictable, why not time the new lists so I can go at the beginning of the sales, before everything is picked over? And, really, are there that many good coupons in the coming week that waiting until the next Sunday’s paper justifies missing most of the good sales?

Frankly, I don’t need this stuff

To paraphrase Jurassic Park, couponing keeps you so preoccupied with whether or not you can, you didn’t stop to think if you should. You can get 50,000 razors for pennies apiece, but what are you going to do with them?

If you really want to save money, don't buy stuff you don't need. At all. Ever.

It’s just food

I know, I know, food is a little bit important in sustaining life. Right. But the things that coupons come for most of the time will not form part of a complete meal. For example, in this week’s paper, I found coupons for:
  • Fruit snacks
  • Cinnamon rolls, biscuits
  • Cereal
  • Desserts
  • Snack cakes
  • Chips
  • Candy
  • Frozen pizza and pizza-type things
  • Spaghetti-Os
Actual meals in there? Breakfast, biscuits as a side with dinner, freezer pizza and canned spaghetti (which I don’t even like). Healthy.

It’s mostly just food—food I probably didn’t need anyway. Again, even if I can get $50 worth of snack food for $0.50, once again, it doesn’t mean I should. It’s $0.50 I don’t really need to spend (and it’s never just $0.50) and it’s probably 50 pounds I don’t need to gain.

Granted, many couponing programs do note when there’s a good sale on fruit and meat, but I can figure that out myself.

I’m just not convinced

I know that it’s so easy to come home from couponing with a huge amount listed on the receipt as your “Amount Saved.” The rewards seem very tangible. But when I buy the store brand on sale instead of the name brand, my receipt doesn’t list that as part of my amount saved. While I could be saving just as much, the rewards are less tangible.

For example, I took a look at my grocery receipt for last week and compared prices on a few things that you just can’t use coupons on: store-brand milk, store-brand juice, meat (London broil), cucumbers, tomatoes and nectarines. I chose these because they happened to be on sale at both the discount store and the larger store I used the Grocery Game with store that week.

What did I discover? I was overcharged for my nectarines! I want my $1.47 back!

Erm, um. . . . In the amounts that I bought of these six things, the discount store was cheaper by more than $5 for one week’s worth of groceries. But if I really wanted to compare prices, one thing I’d have to take into account: I bought 2.23 lbs of meat, and the sale price at the other store (already $1/lb more) only applied to “Super Value Packs,” which would probably be at least twice as much meat. (And then I’d have to figure out a place to store it…)

Taking into account what I’d really have to spend to get that price, assuming I could find a small Super Value Pack (5 lbs, or two London broils), the difference grew to $13.63. On six things. That’s a lot of coupons.

What Works for Me


When I was on top of couponing, I review my stock of coupons before looking at the cheaper grocery store’s fliers. Then I look at the fliers and plan the week’s meals around what’s on sale. Then I write down anything else that’s a good deal that we normally eat and check my shelves to see if we’re low. Finally, I see if I have a coupon for anything in the flier and decide whether I really want it. (More ways I save money on groceries.)

We do still stock up on many things and rotate through our stock, but the #1 thing that helps save money is getting a sense of good prices for products. It takes observation and time, but eventually you'll be able to tell whether that's a good deal on meat or milk or mangoes.

My favorite shopping trick: Local stores periodically offer “case lot sales,” where canned goods (usually store brand) are marked down considerably—usually 50¢ a can or less. We stockpile canned goods during these sales. We use several FIFO organizers (first in, first out) and I’ve never run out of canned goods since we started really stockpiling during these sales.

I prefer shopping when and where I want, bringing less junk food into my house, and bringing home meals and food we’ll actually eat. To me, that’s the most cost effective way to get our grocery shopping done.

Need more help grocery shopping? Check out 11 ways to stay sane while grocery shopping with kids and 25 unconventional ways to save money on groceries.

Photo credit: coupons by OOingle.com 

Family summer fun plan!

When I was a kid, we still had two weeks left of school at this point—but my kids' summer vacation starts today! So for the third year in a row, we're running our own "DIY Summer camp." (Check out our plans from 2013 and 2012!)

The idea for DIY Summer Camp came from the Power of Moms blog. Around here, we keep it pretty simple. First, we brainstormed fun things to do at home, and places to go or fun things to do away from home:

I decided we could put any idea on the list, even though we may not get to do it this year (such as visiting the beach; the closest ones are 1000 mi away). We listed fun things we like to do every day as well as special activities and things no summer would be complete without.

Some ideas to get you started:

Fun things to do at home
  • Play in the sprinklers
  • Play with water balloons, water guns, etc.
  • Make a slip'n'slide
  • Paint
  • Grill
  • Fireworks
  • Make ice cream, cheese, slushies
  • Crafts
  • Night games/flashlight game
  • Read
  • Puppet shows

Places to go/fun things to do away from home
  • Beach/lake
  • Baseball game
  • Library
  • Museums
  • Historical sites
  • Restaurants
  • Factory tours (especially candy factories!)
  • Pool/splash pad
  • Park
  • Hike/nature walk
  • Movies, outdoor movies or drive-ins
You can also list things you want to learn, skills you want to work on, other goals, events you want to attend, etc.

Next, I worked on our weekly schedule. I decided I liked last year's day themes so much, I wanted to use them again. I also included routine/schedule items on each day, and a few fun ideas from our list relating to the theme of the day.

  • Make it Monday: arts and crafts
  • Townie Tuesday: visit or research something fun to do in our town, such as the library, local restaurants, and other attractions
  • Wet Wednesday (and Friendsday Wednesday): play at the pool or lake or in the sprinklers, get slurpees, playdates
  • Thoughtful Thursday: acts of service
  • Fun Fridays: trips, movie nights, game nights


At the bottom of this poster, I added two new things. The Rotation Ideas is something I saw on Pinterest (but failed to repin, so I don't have a link :( ), where you have several stations with activities for your kids, and they rotate through them. Our rotation ideas include drawing, reading, playing outside, playing the piano, spending time with Mom, etc. The point is really to make sure that we all get some down time each day without resorting to (too much) screen time.

On the right hand side, there's the Banish Boredom list, fun things we can do at any time from writing in journals to a list of games/makebelieve they enjoy to singing and dancing and sidewalk chalk. I tried to stick to things that don't take supervision or much help from me beyond set up in case boredom strikes while I'm putting the baby down for a nap or making dinner.

After I took this picture, I added one line to the bottom of the chart, just as a reminder for us, that every day they're expected to do their chores (bedroom, independent chore and cooperative chore), read, and practice/write.

I also made up a loose schedule for our days so we all know what to expect. I have two versions of the schedule, the one nap and two nap variations, since a lot of our plans revolve around the baby's schedule still. Having that schedule can help us all remember when the fun happens ;) . I scheduled rotations during the baby's nap time so I can have some downtime as well, and even built in the kids helping me entertain the baby while I'm making dinner on one-nap days (when she's super grumpy).

The only thing that's missing is an adorable picture like this:

Fingers crossed for our best DIY summer camp yet!

Taking back Mother's Day

Mother's Day is a big deal. Sometimes, it's too big a deal. Mothers work hard all year long, and somehow we hope that in this one day, all that effort will be recognized with breakfast in bed, dinner made for us, dishes done, house cleaned and perfect harmony all around.

mother's day still 13


Shockingly, this dream almost never materializes for us. The breakfast is burned, the pancakes are filled with eggshells, dinner doesn't happen, we end up doing all the dishes and cleaning the entire house in a fit of martyrdom, and worst of all, the kids fly at each other and fight like roosters possessed of banshees.

I've always tried to keep my expectations low for Mother's Day. Most years, a box of See's chocolates and homemade cards are all I want, but sometimes I don't even get that—and sometimes, even holding those sweet notes (and sweet treats) isn't enough to make it feel worthwhile while the children scream and fight all around me.

I'm tired of the expectations, the dashed dreams, the hollow hope of harmony. I'm tired of focusing on me and hoping the kids will do the same, and being disappointed when—gasp!—they're the same kids they were yesterday, not bad at all, but no more obedient or kind or clean than they were last week.

So I'm taking back Mother's Day. Instead of focusing on what they can do for me and how they can make me feel appreciated, I'm going to think about what being a mother means to me. I'm planning to surprise each of them with a handwritten note on things I love about them, how I feel about being their mother, and how much I love them.

In the end, motherhood isn't about me. We mothers do work hard, but nothing our kids do (other than giving us grandkids!) can truly repay us. I hope to teach my children to be grateful more than one day a year—that's way too much pressure!—but for Mother's Day, I want to focus on what it means to be a mom to me.

What would you do to take back Mother's Day?

Toddler Family Home Evening: Week 3

So I was looking on Pinterest for ideas for a Jonah and the Whale FHE. There were tons of ideas! I synthesized a few here.

Theme: Jonah and the Whale (found in Jonah 1-4) and obedience
Prep: Make cup whale, cut out fun foam fish and Jonah. To make the whale I cut out the bottom of the cup and I glued on some tulle/netting. I glued on fun foam fins and drew a face. Fill a shallow dish with water and place fish and Jonah in the water.  
Songs: Follow the Prophet-Jonah, Choose the Right Way, Choose the Right
Lesson: 
  1. Watch movie here about Jonah and the Whale
  2. Discuss how Jonah didn't follow Heavenly Father's commandments and there were negative consequences- a storm and being swallowed by the great fish. 
  3. Play a game of scooping up the fish and Jonah with the whale. 
Treats: Here is a whale treat, or you could have Goldfish, or other fish candy ie Sweedish fish.











Last night as we were putting her to bed and she was being crazy so we reminded her about Jonah being disobedient she said "but der are no whales here." Touche

Enjoy!
Do you have any good ideas for a toddler FHE? Would you like to submit your own lesson? We would love to hear from you!

Interested in more ideas? See here

Toddler Family Home Evening: Week 2


This is week two in the series of toddler Family Home Evening plans. Since toddler attention spans can be really brief here is a really brief yet super fun Family Home Evening for you. I have found that using the Mormon Channel scripture videos is so helpful. PB can't follow along with verbal stories as well as the cartoons that they have on there. So we have been watching those first and then talking about more. (see link below)



Theme: Lehi Dwelt in a Tent
Prep: Gather fort materials: blankets, string, hand clamps, etc.
Songs: Book of Mormon Stories , Nephi's Courage, Choose the Right Way
Lesson:
  1. Watch movie here about Lehi's family traveling in the wilderness
  2. Build a fort
  3. Discuss how when we follow God's commandments sometimes it's not how we think things should go but Lehi and his family were obedient and were blessed. 
Treats: Here is a little tent treat
 We had tons of fun!

Looking for more ideas click here for more toddler Family Home Evening ideas!

How Do You Save Money?

We've talked a lot about how to save money on groceries but I want to hear some feed back from our readers!

Here are some of the sources I look to for saving money:

Blogs:
Totally Target- I think I may be slightly addicted to Target
My Litter- she has general information about saving around the web. Sometimes it's a bit too much info though. I really like her coupon database
Southern Savers- this has a lot of deals on it but not as much extra stuff as MyLitter
Baby Cheapskate- I love that they frequently post the current deals for diapers (even cloth!), wipes, kids clothes, etc

Websites:
The Grocery Game: I subscribe to two stores (Kroger and Harris Teeter) so it is $15 every 6 weeks. I love that the price has never gone up and they have a super convenient format and it is easy to use.
Target.com- for Target store coupons

Apps:
Target Cartwheel- Can you tell I really like Target? Seriously though, we get their diapers and frequently I will have a coupon and a cartwheel. So even though their diapers begin being cheaper than name brand diapers, they get even cheaper with coupons! At Target you can you one Manufacturer's, one Target, and one Cartwheel coupon per item. That is three coupons on one item. I just love it! To use the Cartwheel app (or you can use it on the computer) you load deals on your cartwheel and at checkout the cashier scans one barcode, either on your phone or from a printout.
Ibotta: I've never used this one but I've heard good things about it - Have any of you used it?
Checkout 51: Again I've never used this one. I just read a post on Southern Savers about is. What do y'all think?

Stores:
Kroger: So I used to do 90% of my grocery shopping at Kroger but they changed their customer loyalty program and took away their doubling coupons all within 5 months. They said they were replacing them with lower prices. Not only have I found their prices have increased but also the deals obviously aren't as numerous. I have cut back my shopping at Kroger to about 30%
Aldi: I have to drive almost 20 minutes to Aldi but I make the trek once a month to get their great deals. They are building one less than 10 minutes away though :)
Harris Teeter: I love their double coupon policy (under a dollar doubles). Super doubles and triples are awesome as well!

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11 Ways to Stay Sane Grocery Shopping with Children

Kids and grocery stores often don't mix: temptations, temper tantrums, tears—and then there's the kids! ;)

I've been grocery shopping with small children nearly every week for almost eight years now, and while I try very hard to avoid grocery shopping with all four children (all under eight), I've found several other tips to make grocery shopping a little less crazy-making.



Feed them first
. Just like you're more likely to have a successful shopping trip on a full stomach, so are your kids.

Park near a cart return. Usually we maneuver for the closest position to the doors, but if you're next to a cart return, you can often get a cart so you don't have to drag/lug your kids/car seat/first tantrumer in. Then when you're done, you don't have to run across the parking lot to return your cart.

With tiny children, use a front carrier. The car seat takes up too much room in the cart for an effective shopping trip.

Know your grocery store's kid-friendly perks.
Some of my local grocery stores' perks:
  • Free small candy at check out (a roll of Smarties)
  • Child-sized carts
  • Carts with plastic toy cars on the front
  • Carts with built-in plastic child seats
  • Free cookies at bakery
No store has all of these, so it's important to know what to prepare your kids for before you go in ("No, they don't have Smarties here, guys.") And on that note . . .

Cut off tantrums before they begin. Set ground rules before you go in the store. "There will be no tantrums, or [natural consequence]." "We will be getting X, Y and Z, but we are not going to spend money on Q, P and R."

Bring bribes. Small candies, gum or a pack of fruit snacks can help stave off tantrums or the gimme-gimmes. Alternatively, buy bribes and make your children earn them through good behavior while at the store. (I do this with the free cookies and candy from the store.)

Give your kids choices. If you're shopping for food for them especially, you can let them choose. It keeps them from getting bored and (hopefully) increases the chances they'll eat what you buy. Even if it's not something they normally like--let them help pick out your tomatoes, and they just might eat them.

Give your kids responsibilities. My kids love to help hold the list and the pen, or drive the cart; Brooke gives her little girl the coupons to help out. When they're invested, they're not throwing a fit.

Teach them to grocery shop. As your kids get older, they need to learn grocery shopping skills. Teach them how to tell if a piece of fruit is ripe or a vegetable is good (and if you don't know, now's a good time to learn!). Teach them how to save money on groceries. Teach them to use a list.

Take a deep breath, count to four, say a prayer. A little patience goes a long way. A lot goes even further.

Bring along a snappy comeback to those old biddies who tell you, "I never would have let MY children behave that way." I've never had that happen to me, but I do have friends who have. (One brave friend followed the wicked witch into the store to tell her how unhelpful, rude and ugly her behavior was.) How about, "Yes, well, at least they don't reprimand strangers who are doing their best" or "Oh, to be ninety and have forgotten these struggles"?

What are your best grocery shopping with kids tips?

Original photo: GoonSquadSarah

13 Fun Ways for Kids to Show Gratitude!

Thanksgiving is here at last!

I'm definitely looking for ways to help my kids to learn and show gratitude this week, and here are 13 fun ideas I found!

1. Topical gratitude challenge

You can use these categories to go around the Thanksgiving table, too.

2. Gratitude garland

Great for decorating for Thanksgiving, too!

3. Family gratitude journal

Also a fun family activity.

4. Gratitude poster

Beautiful, creative and grateful.

5. Gratitude tree

Another fun way to decorate for Thanksgiving and fall.

6. Gratitude cards

Rainbow colored cards that include prompts, ideas and tasks.

7. Gratitude banner

So many ways to use this one! Here, they've got pockets for each family member and other family members can leave notes telling why they're grateful for them.

8. Gratitude rolls

Fast, easy and fun to share at Thanksgiving dinner!

9. Gratitude at the Thanksgiving table

Prompts and papers for Thanksgiving dinner gratitude. Fun alternative to simply making rounds of the table.

10. Gratitude pinboard (literally!)

A real-life pin board to fill with things you're grateful for.

11. Gratitude alphabet

What you're thankful for, from A to Z

12. Donate food (or clothes/time/service) to those in need

I like to help my children weed out toys they don't play with anymore and donate them at Christmas time, and we'll definitely be donating food this year. (Side note: check with your food bank first. Donating food is a great gesture to involve your children, but sometimes food banks get a better deal than we do, so giving them the same amount of money can go a lot further, and you can find other ways to involve your children.)

13. Collect thank you notes and treats for our troops

You can make care packages for anyone who might need a little extra love during this season: elderly neighbors, far-off family members, our troops.

How do you help your kids remember to be grateful?

Shaving Cream and Glue Finger Paint

This paint is so fun! It's puffy and easy to clean up!

What you need:
Shaving cream
White glue
Food color

Mix together about equal amounts of shaving cream and glue. Mix in the food coloring.

I gave PB a big sheet of news print and two little bowls of the mix and let her go to town! She loved it! I didn't care where she got it because she got a quick bath afterward.



Those funny faces crack me up! 
Have you done anything fun with your kids lately?

7 Steps to Get Your Kids to do Chores

Our chore system works great--sometimes. I dole out the assignments, help the kids, and we have a clean, well functioning house. Sometimes, I have to remind and push and nag all day, and finally my husband gets them through their chores just in time for bed. There is no perfect system, but as a mom of four kids, ages 7 and under, I can tell you that this works. And my friends with older kids assure me that this struggle to lay a good foundation young is worth it.
Let me repeat that: this is worth it!


A Good Beginning


If you haven't already begun doing chores, it's important to explain your expectations. Doing chores is not the parents taking a promotion; it's having the kids contribute to a happy household. We all have to do work around the house. Sit the children down and explain this. If you're using a chore chart, unveil it and explain it here. If you're withholding privileges and/or offering rewards (more about both later), explain those systems here, too.

As we mentioned last time, clear expectations are key here as well. Young children (and even older children! Heck, even adults!) need to know exactly what's expected of them. You won't get results from taking a three-year-old to the door of a dirty bathroom and command them, "Make it clean." Show them step by step and help them with . . .


Understanding (& Patience)


I still remember what it was like to be a kid, and to look at a room filled with toys, and not know where to begin. Or a room that had all the big things picked up and think I was done, only to be instructed by my parents that I was nowhere near done.

Young children should not be expected to clean a room systematically or completely without explicit instructions, and often help and reminders. Cleaning isn't instinctual ;) . We're not just assigning them chores; we're teaching them how to maintain a household. A three-year-old is capable of scrubbing a toilet--but she may need it explained and demonstrated a couple (dozen) times.

Appeal to the Rules


Our household is run heavily by the rule of law: once we make a law (a rule), it rules (not our tyrannical wills, most of the time . . . whoops, my degree is showing). "I'm sorry, that's the rule," makes it sound like it's totally out of your hands--and any further appeals to you will be fruitless.

I'm pretty sure this is why rules were invented.

Withhold Privileges


I know, how cruel to make your children work for the privileges of playing computer games, seeing their friends, watching TV, etc. We're probably the meanest parents in the history of the world for doing things like this.

Reward Compliance


"I heart Cleaning"I once heard a talk by a family counselor, and he said to immediately thank a child as soon as they begin to obey. But you can do more than thank your kids, too: when our kids do their chores, with the Family Do Dots system they earn scrip to use in a family "store" once a week. You might pay your kids an allowance. When we Wayward Girls were little, we got to pick out a piece of candy if we did our chores. Young children can be motivated by the smallest rewards.

Choice & Accountability


Make chore time about their choices. They can choose to do their chores and as a consequence, receive privileges and rewards, or they can choose not to do their chores. Even adults don't get to choose the consequences of our actions!

Also under this, make sure the chores are completed and track this. Kids can tell if you're not really checking. (Spot checks can also be very effective.)

Teach Them to ENJOY the Results


Especially following a large task, like cleaning and organizing the toy room, have your children look around at what they've accomplished. They've cleaned this entire room. Help them not only understand the sense of accomplishment they should have, but also help them appreciate how nice the room looks, how easy it will be to find their toys, how much more fun they can have now that the room is clean. This end result is what we want, and if they can internalize that desire for themselves, it's helping them learn to work independently.

Posts in this series: 7 things every parent should know about kids' chores

Photo credit: two children cleaning—Michael Bentley; child cleaning—Amanda Westmont, via Flickr & Creative Commons

7 Things Every Parent Should Know About Kids' Chores

Maybe you're one of the lucky ones, but for us, chores have always been . . . difficult. Between finding a system that works for our family to finding the motivation to actually do it, sometimes having my kids do chores is harder than just cleaning the house myself!

But really, I'm not here to take care of everything for them: as a mom, one of my jobs is to teach my children how to become independent adults one day. And as part of that, I've learned that I need to teach them to do their chores.
 
Photo by Virginie Moerenhout

Let me say that again, because that's the #1 principle that every parent should know:

1. Children must be taught to do chores.
Nobody is born knowing how to pick up a room, put laundry in the proper drawers, do the dishes, etc. We must learn. It helps if we start teaching them while they're young. I imagine that many adults learned to do chores at such a young age that they hardly remember the learning period, but kids don't have that luxury.

2. Children (like everyone else!) need clear expectations for chores.
Most children under the age of about eight can't just be set in a messy room and commanded to clean it. They need specific instructions on what to pick up (i.e., categories of things: toys, books, clothes), where those categories of things should go (i.e., toy box, bookshelf, hamper), and what constitutes being "done." I remember myself being "done" with cleaning only to discover that my parents expected a lot more--and I see the same thing from my kids. It's frustrating for everyone.

3. Recognize the difference between "picking up" and "cleaning."
There's a big difference between picking up things and actually cleaning the house. If you only have small children, they will probably not be cleaning: vacuuming, scrubbing toilets, mopping floors. They should, however, begin picking up very young: putting away toys, books, clothes and other things on the floor. Picking up usually makes a bigger difference faster. Cleaning is a more advanced skill that, again, must be taught.

4. Systems. Work.
While not every system will work for every family or every child, the basic principle holds true: a chore system works. It helps to make the expectations and responsibilities clear, and the best systems also help track progress and completion--and even reward them! We've been using Family DoDots since January and for the most part, it's been very effective at keeping our family on track through the birth of a new baby and a move, two things that can derail any system.

5. Accept some mess.
This might sound contradictory in an article on doing chores, but I do believe that it's okay to have some mess in your home. Everyone's comfort level is different, but it's important to remember that they're kids. I also try to keep in mind that some days there's more mess than there are hands to pick it up, so I do triage: I pick the three messiest areas and assign them to my three chore-aged kids (plus a fourth area they work together on, and their bedrooms), and let the rest wait until another day. (Or, I guess, I pick it up myself if it's really bugging me.)

6. Work on your kids' level.
A teenager, unlike a preschooler, should usually be able to pick up and clean a room pretty independently. We start encouraging our kids to pick up around age one or so. By the time they're about two, we start our kids on actual chores--but we keep these age appropriate. Also, as we make assignments, we try to tailor them to each child. My seven-year-old's dresser drawers are labeled with words. My three- and five-year-olds' drawers are labeled with pictures.

7. Work with your kids.
This might actually be the #1 thing to do. It's certainly the #1 thing for me: nothing else helps to keep my children on task, happy and helping more than having me there with them, guiding, interacting and most of all modeling what to do. I do not do their chores for them, but when I work with them, we all get through the process faster and happier.

What other ideas & attitudes help you with your kids' chores?

Coming up in the Kids' Chores series: more on ways to make your expectations clear, tailoring your chores to your kids' ages, and how to get them to DO them!

What Brave Brooke Has Been Up To

First of all I want to thank all of our readers from the bottom of my heart. You all are so loyal! You stuck around when the times got hard for us! So I was waiting to make this announcement and I never did but this is what I've been up to:

I was growing a baby ;)

Do you ever go through times in your life that you are just solitary? In the past year (mostly since moving) I feel like I have been regrouping. I didn't leave the house often and I just stayed inside and parented my 2 year-old and was happy with my life until I realized that I had become a turtle. Do you feel a little offended I didn't share my big news with you? Well I didn't share it with very many people until I was already half way done. Honestly, this pregnancy didn't come when we planned and I was bitter so I just kept it to myself and yet again retracted into the comfort of solitude. I was even quiet in my virtual life so please don't be offended. I just needed time. About 6 weeks ago I felt like I left my shell behind. I sought out friends and I tried to serve others and I started doing old hobbies again. It almost feels like a waste though, since after having the baby and the tail spin they put you through I will need to regroup again but for these two months I felt so alive and I needed that to recharge myself before retreating again (at least in my personal life. I won't put you through the silence again!)

Like I said, thank you for sticking around and thank you for your understanding. I am so excited to start this new direction for the blog. I feel this is a true reflection of my life and I hope you enjoy!

Moving Week- Day 5 Leaving behind your house

If you missed any of the posts this week you can catch up here. We've talked about supplies needed for moving, Pinterest ideas I tried out while moving, general tips and tricks, and home showing preparation.


Today I have a list of a couple suggestions for when the day comes to move out of your home.

  • For our buyer we left a packet of instructions for our home. Inside of the packet we included the instruction booklets for the appliances that were staying, a parks and recreation fall schedule we had recently gotten in the mail, the trash schedule mailer which included what could be recycled and curb side yard waste pick up, and a list of quirks about the house. The list of quirks included how the dishwasher sometimes needs an extra click to start but it works great, what light switches go to what, and when we replaced the roof and other important dates. 
  • We were close friends with our neighbors. We had helped each other out with projects. We had learned valuable skills about maintaining our home from them and we had developed a friendship. Leaving was hard for us so we got them little treats to show them we would miss them. I went to the dollar store and loaded up on candy. I wrote little poems to go along with each stack of candy. Here are the three different poems I used. 


Dear _____ Family,
You are such Sweethears (tarts)
Who were our Lifesavers
and help us our a Good and Plenty
Big (Red) Thanks, The ____ Family



The ______ Family,
Sometimes we were Goobers
and we got ourselves into a Buncha Crunches
You were our  Lifesavers
that helped us out a Good and Plenty!
-Big (Red) Thanks, The ______ Family



Dear ______ Family,
You all are such Sweethears (tarts)
that we are going to miss Bunches (Crunches)
-Big (Red) Thanks!  The _______ Family

I hope you enjoyed the week of moving posts! If you're moving good luck! I would love to hear from you all about tips that you have! Have a great weekend!

Moving Week- Day 4 Leaving for a showing

If you miss any of the posts this week you can catch up here. We've talked about supplies needed for moving, Pinterest ideas I tried out while moving, and general tips and tricks.


Today we're talking about what to do when you are leaving the house for a showing. 

When we moved our Realtor was amazing! She got us an experienced home stager and a great photographer for the pictures of the house for online. I would HIGHLY suggest getting a stager. You can tell a huge different in a home that is staged. We spent 2 months getting our home ready to sell. Well, technically we spent about 6 months because we started big home renovations the October before we put our house on the market for that reason. We put down sod, fresh flowers, and mulch in the yard as well as painted the house. We scrubbed every corner until it sparkled. We had about 30 showings before we finally got our second offer and it officially sold. All in all it was on the market three months before we were under contract for good. (We got one offer very quickly but it fell through)  With a baby it was hard to keep it in showing condition. Here are a few tips that we did*
This is PB outside hanging out while we worked on the exterior of the house. She just stayed in the shade on a blanket all day. 

  • Make your home a shell. Take down your personal effects and things specific to you. You want the buyers to see themselves in your house. This means knick knacks, pictures, and extra furniture into storage.
  • Make sure your lawn is not over grown and your driveway and front porch are power washed and cleaned. I viewed two homes that were the same home plan in two different neighborhoods. The outdoor appearance (and cleanliness inside) totally made me hate the unkempt house and only later did I realize that they were the same floor plan. 
  • Make sure your carpets are clean and vacuumed. Yucky carpets are a huge turnoff.
  • Do laundry often so that it does not get piled up in the hamper. Even when dirty clothes are in a hamper if there are a lot of them it stinks! 
  • Before you go to bed each night make sure that your house is in showing condition so you will have less to do if there is a showing the next day.
  • Leave out only a few toys that can be hidden in a discreet place. We kept PB's in our TV stand and behind the couch where they could be easily shoved away. 
  • Great places to take kids while you're waiting for a showing to be done are a fast food restaurant with a play place, a playground, Target, or a museum. 
  • Make sure your house smells like coming home. In the mornings we would make our buyers cinnamon rolls and during the day it was cookies. I have also heard of put vanilla in a warm stove.
  • We made an inviting table to draw their eye when they came in. On the kitchen table I put out a fresh table cloth with flowers (sometimes fresh- usually fake), the home brochures, the warm cookies, a decorative container with ice and mini bottles of water, with a sign that said "Please Help Yourself" in fancy writing in a cute frame. 

I wish I had a picture of the last suggestion but we were usually rushing out of the house and did not have time to do anything but get our seats buckled and leave!

I hope some of these tips helped. Do you have any home prep tips for showings?!

Tomorrow, on our last day were are talking about leaving our homes and neighborhoods. 

*Note: I'm not sharing staging tips I was given by our Realtor and home stager. I consider those the intellectual property of our home stager and Realtor. These are tips that I found on my own, were suggested from family and friends, or I noticed while viewing homes as a buyer. 

Moving Day 3- Tips and Tricks

Hooray for day three!  If you want to see other posts in this series Monday was supplies to use and Tuesday was Pinterest ideas I tried out.


Today is general tips for moving!

  • Packing:
    • I didn't know where I wanted a lot of my decor for the new house so I labeled it all to go to the same spot. Once it got there I could decide where it should go from there. 


    • Most of our paperwork got packed up but I kept out the important thing. The things I would need right before, during, and after closing. I had my old and new loan documents, our passports/birth certificates/ss cards, extra pens and paper, and child proofing items in there. The child proofing things were collected as we emptied out drawers and were kept there so that we could put them on the outlets and cabinets as soon as we got to the new house. This bag was in addition to the bag I talked about on Monday with moving supplies in it. 
    • Don't pack boxes too heavy. It's really easy to just take all of your books and put them in the same box. Be careful how many books you put in the box. It could make the box break or you could hurt the back of the person carrying it!
    • Don't take your clothes off the hanger! That takes forever to do and forever to put back on the hangers. You can get clothes hanging boxes or the much easier and less expensive option is to get trash bags and tear a hole in the center of the bottom and put them over your clothes with the crook of the hanger out of the hole. Stuff the parts that don't fit into the bottom and pull the draw string closed. Tape the hangers together. 
    • Pack your sheets on top so you can make your bed first when you get there. 
    • I had a schedule for when I would pack everything up. The last minute items such as food, dishes, clothing, toiletries all need to be packed and can't be done at the same time since that is a whole lot of stuff. I had a plan for each day. When I packed my toiletries I had travel ones to get us through moving. When I packed our dishes I had purchased a huge thing of styrafoam plates. I scheduled out our meals and only kept out the food we needed. I made a schedule of all of this so I could make sure it all got done in time.
    • Have an on going box to go to charity. I had multiple bags and they all went at once. 
  • Labeling boxes
    • Label EVERYTHING. Use masking tape to label furniture, big bins, and other large items. My goal was to have the only question people ask me on moving day was "What can I do next?"
    • On Monday I talked about the labels I used. So when I was at our old house I drew a rough layout map of our new house and numbered each room. I taped this map next to the door the stuff would be coming through on moving in day. Each box had a number on yellow tape, blue tape if it was heavy, red tape if it was fragile, and an orange X if it needed to be last one on first one off. The label was placed so it could be seen from the top or side. 
  • Moving your stuff
    • Who doesn't love free labor? We asked for help at church and got the teenage boys as well as quite a few other men and women to help us. That morning I didn't know how we would get everything done but two amazing people from our church showed up. We couldn't have done it without them!
    • We told all of the people that were coming to help that we were going to have food at certain times. We had $5 pizza on moving out day and subs on moving in day. Both were super easy to set out and clean up.
    • At our final walk through I brought a tape measure. I measured where our furniture would fit so I was sure where I wanted it while I still had muscle there to move it. No couches in the middle of the living room for me!
    • I'm a firm believer that unless a child can help out a lot (ie a teenager) they should be somewhere else during moving. My sister-in-law and her family graciously watched PB for two days while we moved. It was the longest I had ever been away from her and it was really hard but it helped out so much no to have to worry about nap times and where she could safely play.
  • Saving Money
    • For our moving truck I used a promo code I found on a discount site. I compared three different companies and we got a great price.
    • When you change your address you will get great coupons in the packet! My favorites are the ones to home improvements stores. Also look on their websites for moving incentives and coupons.
  • Once you get there
    • Set up your beds first! That way you can fall into them when you get too exhausted to move anything else
    • For safety you should rekey your house. We were worried about the price of new locks and door knobs and we're DIYers so we found a tutorial online and changed the pins inside of our existing locks with a kit we bought on Amazon. Instead of spending hundreds of dollars we spent $7. That's a good exchange!
Phew! I think that's about all I have until tomorrow! Do you have any tips for moving?

Enjoy this post?! Here are four others in the series:


Day 2- Pinterest Ideas I tried out

Day 3- General Tips and Tricks

Day 4- Preparing Your House for Showings

Day 5- Leaving Behind Your Home and Neighbors

Moving Week: Day 2 Pinterest Ideas

Welcome to Moving day two! To see day one which talked about supplies for moving go here.


Today we're talking about some of the tips I used from Pinterest and the ones I wished I had.


I had seen a couple tricks for packing up dishes on Pinterest and I decided to combine them.

Here is the first pin that I tried. I have two sets of dishes to I used two buckets. This only partially worked. One of my buckets was a 5-gallon bucket and the other was a 3-gallon bucket. The problem was that both buckets tapered and I'm not sure if all buckets taper but both of the ones I had did. . I put a sturdy plastic bag (like one you get from a clothing store not the grocery store) inside and then placed the bags in but they still wedged in 6 inches above the bottom of the bucket. Knowing that though you could put something in the bottom. This makes the bucket very heavy so much make sure you mark that the bucket is heavy.

I also used this trick to pack my dishes inside the buckets.

This worked well and we didn't have any casualties.

Here is one tip I wished I had used:




and here is one great blog post about moving.



Have you found any great pins about moving?

Join us tomorrow for general packing and moving tips! 
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